The following perspectives we’ll be hearing from are Barbara Oke and Tongu Achuo. Ms. Oke begins by saying, “He made them men and women that is why a man will leave his mother & father to cleave with his wife. This will only work with a God-fearing man and a God-fearing woman. You are now considered as one team, a unit, and you have someone to communicate with, play with, somebody to laugh with, cry with, and share with, you are no longer alone. A man should not always be in charge and command the wife to do things and send her away when he is done with her services. Afterward, when you try to get close to him he pushes you away. If he is a God-fearing man you will be blessed by all he does, and he will be blessed too. He will respect you and treat you like the fufu (cassava/yam meal) and soup he loves. He is pleasant, and he smiles. He will not encourage me to have a child outside of wedlock and I will give his children back to him if we’re having problems with our marriage. If he gives tough love I will give tough love back to him. I want to be treated like the gem I am, so he should treat me pleasantly and respectfully. No one should be looking for a servant wife, he must be faithful and you must only multiply with someone that cares for you. What God has joined together let man not put asunder: Interference is part of the package I know who I belong to, and I don’t want to defile the marriage bed. Both should be fighting to keep each other happy.”
Our next contributor, Tongu Achuo says, the establishment of the Holy Matrimony according to God’s intent, is for men and women to live as an entity. Continuing he posits that God specifically instructs man to focus on his wife first, to start a new family over which it is putting men to lead. Furthermore, he said the admonition to the marriage bed is defiled and pertains to procreation. This means God’s design for marriage is for parents to raise their blessings (children.) Equally, he continues, fact states that whoever abandons the union for secularities has betrayed God’s purpose of Marriage. Then the marriage bed is then defiled. He believes that challenges will surely arise in a marriage, and one should not put aside what God has joined together. Anyone who knowingly elects to undo what God has done is heading for earthly perdition.
Thank you for reading, the next post will come out on January 23rd.
